I Had to Say Something
By Rachel in Uncategorized, Baseball, love & lies, relationships, Barry Bonds on June 19 2007
(photo by BritElizabeth @ flickr)
I had to say something to my son about Barry Bonds. I had to say something, because I didn’t want him watching a gorgeous home run arc over the Green Monster and thinking that Bonds owned a rightful place among real homerun heroes, like his favorite, Big Papi, or mine, Manny Ramirez, or ones he’d learn about later, like Hank Aaron.
So I told my son that Bonds cheated. I explained all about the importance of telling the truth and of playing games fairly so that every player has a chance to win. And he understood perfectly.
And yet, it seems, the point is lost on some (far more grown up) people. Someone recently told me that she’s seen, as a person in the dating world, a rise of married men asking out single women. And I’ve peeked at it myself. I’ve been in the situation where someone is chatting you up and wanting to take you out on a dinner date, and by asking a few run of the mill questions, you realize he’s married. And not about-to-be-divorced married. Married married. And amazingly enough, these guys are not ashamed of that at all.
More often than not they claim to have “an understanding” with their wife. Wait, I need to stop laughing.
According to these guys, they are free to date, and the woman who dates them gets everything she wants out of a relationship, unless she wants marriage.
Or integrity. It’s not about wanting marriage and not being able to have it because he’s married to someone else. It’s really just about whether you could ever trust and love someone who is a serial sneak. Every word would be suspect. Every gesture called into question.
I don’t hate Barry Bonds because he’s full of himself or a jerk to media or rude to his teammates. What I can’t stand about him is that he’s a big faker, and, like every cheater, he knows it.
In spite of all the excitement, we were glad to see him go.
(first published at http://mannyshadow.blogspot.com)
